In yesterday’s post, I mentioned that 7 out of 10 women feel that they become invisible as they get older. Personally, however, that hasn’t been my experience, so I’ve been asking myself why. Why, at 70, don’t I feel invisible?

In spite of the fact that I’m naturally an introvert, I’ve learned to live my life out loud. Writing the blog has helped a lot with that. I’ve also taken to heart my father’s teaching that there’s no end of interesting things to do in retirement as long as you don’t need to be paid. I live a busy and productive life. 

Positive vibrant women aren’t invisible, but remaining visible as we age does require energy and intention. Here are some tips that might help:

• Be interested and interesting. 
• Live audaciously. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something new.  
• Stay actively involved in life.
• Be curious. Ask questions and continue learning.
• The world is constantly changing, but try to keep up! Even if you don’t use all of the latest technology, keep moving forward and don’t live in the past. 
• Reading or watching the news can be depressing, but you need to know what’s going on and be able to discuss it.
• Show an interest in people of all ages.
• Maintain connection with interesting people; people who “see you”, who hear and respect you, who inspire you, and who value your input.
• Be positive and engaging. Initiate conversation with those who don’t seem to notice you.
• Learn to be upfront about what you want or need. Speaking up and making yourself heard comes easier for those who are extroverts, but we can all do it and the more you try the easier it will become.

Although women tend to experience age related invisibility more often and at a younger age than men do, these suggestions apply equally to both genders. No one should accept being made to feel inconsequential!

In tomorrow’s Fashion Friday post I plan to bring this series to an end by looking at visibility and style. I hope you’ll join me.