Confidence – your best accessory

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LogoThis week, I heard someone say that confidence is the ultimate fashion accessory and that resonated with me because confident is one of my 5 style adjectives. I want my outfits to say that I am classy, casual, comfortable, confident, and authentic.

I’ve written about this topic before, but I think it bears repeating. If you’re like me, you’ve heard that little voice inside your head that says, “You’re no good at this. You don’t know what you’re doing.” or “You look ridiculous! People are going to laugh at you.”

An article in an older issue of Psychology Today, defined confidence as “a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life’s challenges and to succeed – and the willingness to act accordingly.” It went on to say that projecting confidence helps us gain credibility, make strong first impressions, deal with pressure, and tackle personal and professional challenges. It also helps put other people at ease. So, what does all this have to do with fashion?

Enclothed cognition is a term that relates to the effect that clothing has on the way a person thinks, feels, and functions. Studies actually show that what we wear directly affects our behaviour, attitudes, personality, mood, confidence, and even the way we interact with other people. How we look on the outside has a powerful impact on how we feel on the inside.

Style confidence involves embracing your uniqueness and finding a personal style that makes you feel like your best self. Wear an outfit because it makes you feel good, not because someone else tells you that it’s right for you.

When it comes to confidence, I’ve also found that there’s truth in the old adage “fake it until you make it”. If you dress in a way that makes you appear strong and confident, stand tall, look people in the eye and focus on them instead of yourself, you might be quivering on the inside, but no one will know. It might require stepping out of your comfort zone, but you might also experience a rush of empowerment because you’ll be wearing your best accessory!

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How to care for sweaters

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logo-by-samI hate being cold, so it seems that my style uniform this winter has become a pair of jeans or corduroy pants and a pullover sweater, or a jumper as it’s known in some parts of the world. A style uniform is simply a combination of clothing that you know you can always rely on and feel comfortable wearing.

Since I’m wearing them so much of the time, sweater care has been on my mind and today I’m going to share a few tips for keeping your sweaters going strong.

Washing 

Begin by reading the care label. Most will advise hand washing in cold or lukewarm water as hot water may cause the fibres to shrink or the sweater to become misshapen. I’m very thankful that my washer has a gentle hand wash cycle, but if you do wash by hand, avoid wringing or twisting as this is also hard on the fibres and might stretch the sweater out of shape. When washing by machine, turn the sweater inside out to help reduce pilling and place it in a mesh laundry bag so that it doesn’t catch on anything. If your sweater is wool, use a mild, wool-specific detergent. Personally, I wouldn’t buy a sweater that needs to be dry cleaned.

Drying 

If washed by hand, begin by laying the sweater out on a dry towel and rolling it to squeeze out excess water. This step isn’t usually necessary if the sweater is machine washed. To dry, lay the sweater flat on a drying rack or another towel and gently reshape if needed.

Removing pills

Pills are the tiny balls of fluff that often form on the surface of knitted fabrics regardless of how carefully you wash them. DO NOT try to pull these off. Simply run an inexpensive fabric shaver over the affected areas as needed. This is the one I use.

Storage

There are two options for storing your sweaters; folding and hanging. Folded sweaters can be piled neatly in drawers on on shelves. If you simply hang a sweater on a hanger the way you would a shirt, gravity will stretch the sweater and leave those nasty little hanger bumps at the shoulders. Instead, I’m going to show you two options for hanging your sweaters that will avoid these problems.

Method #1

Step 1:  Lay sweater flat and fold in half lining up the sleeves.

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Step 2:  Position hanger as shown so that the hook lies between the arm and body of the sweater.

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Step 3:  Wrap the sleeves over one shoulder of the hanger.

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Step 4:  Wrap the body of the sweater over the other side of the hanger.

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Method #2

Step 1:  Same as above.

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Step 2:  Fold sleeves across the body of the sweater.

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Step 3:  Slide folded sweater over the crossbar of hanger with sleeves inside.

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Personally, I prefer the second method. It’s simple, neat and tidy, and there’s no chance of the sweater slipping off the hanger.

Following these tips should keep your sweaters looking good season after season.

Book of the month – November 2024

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The Sun Does Shine

Anthony Ray Hinton with Lara Love Hardin

81FDl6InT2L._SY522_Anthony Ray Hinton spent almost 30 years on death row in Alabama. In 1985, he was arrested and charged with two counts of capital murder, but his only crime was being poor and black.

“He was a poor man in a criminal justice system that treats you better if you are rich and guilty than if you are poor and innocent.”  Bryan Stevenson

In a courtroom with an all-white judge and jury in a state where racial prejudice was rampant, represented by an incompetent court-appointed lawyer, and with the star witnesses being a bumbling ballistics “expert” and an acquaintance who lied, Hinton didn’t have a chance.

He spent his first three years in Holman State Prison in agonizing silence full of despair and anger toward all those who would send an innocent man to his death, but finally beginning to come to terms with his fate, he resolved not only to survive, but to find a way to live on death row. Sometimes that meant escaping into his imagination, but it also meant reaching out and becoming an inspiration to his fellow inmates, 54 of whom were executed mere feet from his cell.

This could have been a very depressing read, but instead it’s a story of a man who never lost his humanity, his sense of humour, or his faith in spite of all that was taken from him. It’s not an easy read. The injustice that Hinton endured at the hands of a legal system that knew he was innocent is absolutely horrifying, but it’s a story of a man who chose to forgive. It’s also a story of love and the power of friendship. Hinton’s mother, who died before he was released, never gave up hope that her “baby” would come home and his childhood friend, Lester, closer than a brother, visited him every single week for the entire time that he was incarcerated.

With the help of Bryan Stevenson, civil rights attorney and bestselling author of Just Mercy, and the Equal Justice Initiative, Hinton finally won his freedom in 2015. He was released into a world that had completely changed in the 30 years since his arrest; a bewildering world of computers, cell phones, and a woman’s voice in the car telling Lester when and where to turn on their way to visit Hinton’s mother’s grave! Now living in her house, which required significant work after sitting empty for several years, he dedicates his time to sharing his experience and speaking out against injustice and the death penalty which he calls a “form of lynching”.

He has never received an apology or any compensation from the State of Alabama and the real killer has never been apprehended.

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Staying chic in winter: essential outerwear tips

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logo-by-samIn response to last Friday’s post, one of my regular readers made this comment on Facebook… “In addition to your tips, there are two items I think will help you look put together. In our cold climate most people we meet will only see our outerwear, so I invest in a nice flattering coat and boots. They go a long way to creating good first and lasting impressions.” That reminded me of a hilarious story that has been told many times at my poor hubby’s expense. 

Many years ago when we were in the city for our annual teacher’s convention, we went out for dinner with a colleague who is also a good friend. It was a cold, blustery evening in early March. Hubby dropped us off in front of the restaurant and then went to park the vehicle. We were seated in the lounge while waiting for a table and our drinks had just been delivered when hubby came in to ask if I had some change for the parking meter. He was wearing a ratty old winter coat that I had been trying to convince him to replace for a very long time. I wish I had a picture to show you! It was bad! I gave him the change he needed and as soon as he left, the waiter came over and asked, “Ladies, was that man bothering you?” He thought hubby was a vagrant begging for money! Guess who bought a brand new winter coat the very next day!  

So yes, outerwear is important! It’s often the most visible part of a winter outfit and in many cases, it’s all that people see. Climate should, of course, dictate your choice of outerwear. Here on the Alberta prairie where temperatures plunge to -30ºC (-22ºF) and sometimes even colder, warmth has to be our first priority, but we don’t have to give up looking good in order to stay warm. Six years ago, I wrote this post about how to buy a winter coat. Believe it or not, I’m still wearing that coat and it still looks as good as it did when I bought it. 

If we lived where winters were less harsh, I’d maybe wear this coat all season long or perhaps I’d invest in a longer wool coat, but as soon as the temperature dips much below 0ºC (32ºF) I reach for the warmth of my insulated jacket. 

The second piece of outerwear that will keep you looking put together in the depth of winter is a good pair of boots. If I wasn’t such a frugal fashionista, I’d probably have a very large collection of those. I’m not really a fan of winter, but I do love boots!

Whether choosing tall boots or an ankle style, there are several important factors to consider. As with any footwear, comfort is my first priority. Part of comfort is warmth, so that’s another very important consideration. Wet feet equal cold, uncomfortable feet, so if your winters are rainy and wet, look for boots that are waterproof. Falling on an icy surface is a very real risk where I live and I don’t want to end up breaking a hip or a wrist, so soles that provide good traction are essential. Thankfully, there are plenty of fashionable boots that tick all these boxes. I do have a couple of pairs of ankle boots that are less practical, but I’m very careful when and where I wear those.

As with any footwear, keeping your boots clean and in good condition is part of looking put together. Using a water-repellant spray will help protect them from water, stains, and dirt.

So, now that winter is upon us, don’t forget that you can stay warm and still look good even when you’re out in the cold. 

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How to look put together every day

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logo-by-samIt’s late in the day and I still haven’t written today’s Fashion Friday post, so this is going to be a quick one. We spent two days in the city this week attending medical appointments so that’s my excuse for not being better prepared. The good news is that the lab work and CT scans that I’ve had done over the past couple of weeks showed that my cancer is stable! That’s a word that I wasn’t sure I was ever going to hear again, so of course, I’m delighted. We’ll redo all the tests in three months time, but for now I can put that on the back burner and get on with other things.

We may not always feel as if we have it all together, but we can always look as though we do and how we look affects how we feel. Today I’m going to share 14 tips on how to look put together every single day regardless of age or occasion.

  1. Start by taking care of yourself. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, and adequate sleep go a long way toward looking and feeling your best.
  2. Get a good, low maintenance haircut.
  3. Good grooming is key. Develop a good skin care routine, make sure your hair is neat and clean, practice good dental hygiene, and don’t neglect nail care.
  4. Make sure your clothes are clean.
  5. Don’t wear wrinkled clothes (with the exception of linen which is supposed to be wrinkled). You might want to invest in a hand-held steamer for quick touch ups.
  6. Ensure that your clothing fits well.
  7. Invest in good basics. Shop within your means, but buy the best quality that you can afford.
  8. Use a fabric shaver to remove pilling from knitwear.
  9. Find the colour palette that works best for you.
  10. Make sure your footwear is clean and in good condition.
  11. Accessorize, but don’t overdo.
  12. Use makeup strategically. Again, don’t overdo.
  13. Practice good posture.
  14. And finally, wear a smile!

These tips might seem obvious, but you don’t have to look far to see women who ignore them, especially at this busy, sometimes frenzied time of year. Do you have any other tips to add to the list?

How to elevate a simple jeans and shirt outfit

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In last Friday’s post, you saw this simple jeans and shirt outfit featuring one of my latest thrift store finds.

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It’s a comfy, casual look great for wearing around the house or going for a walk, but today I want to show you how I would elevate the look a bit.

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First, I unbuttoned the shirt and added a cami underneath. I tried white, but with the pale coloured shirt it looked blah and I looked washed out. Besides, it’s laundry day at our house and all my light coloured bras are in the wash. For me, a black bra under a white top is a no go. The rusty red coloured cami was a much better choice.

Next, I rolled up the cuffs and added a belt and some accessories. Considering the fact that the two main pieces are a pair of jeans and a cotton shirt, it’s still a casual look, but definitely a little classier than the first one.

You can’t see my footwear in either photo, but in the first one I was wearing sneakers. For the second look, I might choose a dressier pair of shoes or at this time of year, a pair of booties. After all, there are snowflakes in the air as I look out the window this morning and we’re back to taking fashion photos indoors. 😦

NET Cancer Day 2024

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ncd-logo-newI wish there wasn’t a need for NET Cancer Day and that I didn’t feel compelled to write about it again this year, but there is and I do. Those of you who have been reading the blog for very long might think that I’m  starting to sound like a broken record, but it’s just so important for people to become more aware of this frequently misdiagnosed cancer.

The incidence of neuroendocrine tumours (NETs) is on the rise and symptom awareness is key to earlier diagnosis and ultimately to better outcomes. Last year’s campaign slogan “Easily missed: Take a closer look at neuroendocrine cancer” was such a vital one that the NET Cancer Day campaign is reaffirming that message by using it again this year. More common than brain, ovarian or cervical cancer, neuroendocrine cancer continues to be frequently missed and misdiagnosed.

Globally, it takes an average of 5 years from initial symptoms to actual diagnosis; longer in North America. In my case, doctors estimate that I had had the disease for 7 to 10 years before it was diagnosed and based on symptoms, I’m sure they’re right. By then the cancer had already spread to distant parts of my body. Like many, many other NETs patients, my cancer was Stage 4 and no longer curable. Clearly, a greater awareness of NETs amongst the global community and especially the medical profession is needed.

The NET Cancer Day campaign has traditionally been focused on highlighting the common symptoms that are often interpreted as other conditions, but can also be signs of neuroendocrine cancer. These include facial flushing, abdominal pain, digestive problems, diarrhea, rapid heartbeat, chest pain, shortness of breath, wheezing, coughing, and/or persistent fatigue. People with NETs are often misdiagnosed with more common conditions such as anxiety, menopause, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, gastritis, or asthma.

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I’m not able to give you an update on my own health today as I’m presently waiting for the results of lab work that was done this past week and I’ll be going for CT scans again on Wednesday. Instead, I’ll tell you a bit more about what I’ve been involved in since last NET Cancer Day.

Since very early in my cancer journey, The Canadian Neuroendocrine Tumour Society (CNETS) has been a valuable source of information and support. When the opportunity to get involved as a volunteer member of a newly forming patient advocacy advisory board came to my attention, I knew immediately that that was something I wanted to do. It was time for me to start giving back.

After meeting in Montreal in April for an “advocacy bootcamp” with a prominent Canadian health advocate and policy consultant, we came away with a list of priorities and tactics in the areas of education and awareness, treatment and diagnostic access, and research. With two other members of the board, I’ve been working on a graphic representation of both the current and the ideal pathways to diagnosis for neuroendocrine patients in Canada which we hope to use to inform patients, medical practitioners, and health authorities. This fall, we were fortunate to have our project approved for funding by the International Neuroendocrine Cancer Alliance (INCA) which is allowing us to work with a patient-led consultancy group out of Germany to take our initial work to a higher, more professional level.

Over the past few months, in addition to the advocacy board work, I’ve also been involved in an initiative with Ipsen, the pharmaceutical company that produces the medication that I’m injected with every 28 days, to improve the patient experience with that drug.

These are baby steps in the overall work that needs to be done to improve diagnosis and treatment of neuroendocrine cancer, but I’m happy to be doing what I can to raise awareness and move the work forward.

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My latest thrift store finds

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logo-by-samAs you’re no doubt aware by now, I love thrift store shopping. In addition to the fact that it’s a bit like going on a treasure hunt, there are several other advantages. I can afford to pay full price for my clothes, but my opportunities to shop are limited by the fact that I live in a very small rural community. Two small thrift stores are the only places to shop for clothing locally. The cost per wear is, of course, much lower when I buy second-hand and I also like the fact that, in my own small way, I’m helping reduce the enormous impact that the fashion industry has on the environment.

Thrifting can be a great way to add unique pieces or to fill gaps in your wardrobe, but I cringe whenever I see a blogger or a YouTuber bragging about her thrift store “hauls”. Excess of any kind bothers me. A bargain isn’t a bargain unless you’re actually going to use it and I can’t imagine anyone actually wearing everything in some of those hauls. I often leave a thrift store empty-handed, but once in awhile I find something that’s just right for me. Today I’m going to share my last two second-hand finds with you.

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The casual, comfy tunic shirt from Old Navy has been a good addition to my fall wardrobe. The fabric, although 99% cotton, has a linen-like feel and the soft tan with multicoloured flecks throughout works well with my complexion.

When thrift store shopping, you might have to wade through some very outdated pieces to find what you’re looking for, but it’s possible to look up-to-date or even on trend wearing second-hand clothes. For example, brown is one of the hottest fashion colours for fall/winter 2024 and stripes are also on trend. There’s nothing out of date about my latest find which went with me on our recent trip to the coast.

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I probably wouldn’t have bought the sweater new because it was made in China. That’s a personal choice, but one of my fashion shopping goals in recent years has been to avoid buying items, especially new ones, that were made in a country that is so well-known for exploiting it’s factory workers.

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In case you’re wondering, the final two photos were taken in the tiny community of Madiera Park on British Columbia’s Sunshine Coast. The other one was taken yesterday in my own backyard. At 14ºC (57ºF) and sunny, it was unseasonably warm for the first week of November in Alberta, but I’m afraid that we’ll soon be taking all my fashion post photos indoors again!

When the church disappoints

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This topic has been weighing heavily on my heart for the past couple of days. I don’t know whether I’ll be able to do it justice or not, but since writing is the best way I know to process heavy things and I need to get this off my chest, I’ll give it my best.

I know I’m not the only one feeling completely disheartened by the results of this week’s election in the US. There is no question that we are living in difficult times. What disturbs me most and what has prompted me to write this post is the fact that the election was won with the support of so many so-called evangelical Christians.

There was a time when I might have used that term to describe myself, but I no longer do. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not abandoning my faith. I’m still a Christian although the term that I prefer is Christ-follower. I will not, however, call myself an evangelical Christian. There is no way that I can possibly identify with the overwhelming number of evangelicals who bow down in adoration to a convicted felon, a racist, a misogynist, a liar. How is it that they can possibly believe that God is pleased with their choice? How can they have been so deceived?

Scripture tells us that, as Christians, we are to be “the pleasing aroma of Christ” (2 Corinthians 2:15-16), but frankly, something smells really bad right now!

The Christian church has a long history of going wrong. From the slaughter of Jews and the destruction of their communities during the Crusades to the devastating effect of church-run residential schools on our Indigenous population in the past century, the church has missed the mark in big ways and small.

There’s a common saying amongst believers that the reason there are no perfect churches is that there are no perfect people. That’s true, of course. The church is a collection of sinners, of failures, of flawed human beings, but I think that sometimes we like to use that truth to excuse the inexcusable.

I know that I’m painting the church with a broad brush here. Certainly there are individual congregations or individuals within congregations that are as disappointed as I am with the outcome of the recent election. So how do we respond? What do we do when the church disappoints?

Do we bail out? Do we turn our backs on the church and walk away? Hebrews 10:24-25 advises us to “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another“. If there’s ever a time when we need encouragement, it’s now!  So no, I don’t advise abandoning the church altogether. We’re living in a post Christian era. Clearly the recent election outcome is just one more sign that society is moving farther and farther away from the teachings of Jesus. Whether it’s in a formal church setting or some other kind of gathering, we need one another.

Personally, I will pray and I will continue to nurture my own relationship with Christ, the all-sufficient one. After all, the church is not the saviour of the world and whether or not he would agree, the president-elect isn’t either. That is solely Jesus’ role.

Colossians 3:15 tells us to “let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.” (italics are mine) We can fight our disappointment with gratitude remembering that even in the midst of a world that seems so wrong, we have much to be thankful for.

And finally, let’s not give in to fear. One of my favourite verses, Isaiah 41:10, says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

As the Jim Bailey song says, “I don’t know what the future holds, but I know who holds the future”. In days that seem dark, that gives me a glimmer of hope.

Elevating your wardrobe with style adjectives

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logo-by-samI was almost finished writing this post when, in spite of saving it several times, it disappeared into thin air! After venting my frustration and calling WordPress a few unmentionable names, I decided to try again. Hopefully I can remember what I was trying to say.

Lately, I’ve noticed a lot of interest in my previous posts about style adjectives, so I thought that that would be a good topic to revisit today. Choosing three to five adjectives to describe your personal style can be very helpful in building a cohesive wardrobe and creating outfits that say what you want to say about yourself.

Almost seven years ago, one of my favourite fashion bloggers, Pamela Lutrell, who writes Over 50, Feeling 40, introduced me to the idea of style adjectives. I initially chose classy, confident, and comfortable to describe my style, but just as our personal style can change over time, so can the words we use to describe it. Although I’ve kept the original three, I later added casual and creative to my list. It’s only by chance that all five words started with C! At one point, I thought about adding colourful to the list because at that time I was trying to add more colour to my wardrobe, but I soon realized that there was a good reason that I always gravitated toward neutrals. Those are the colours that I feel most comfortable in. Eventually, I also realized that creative didn’t really describe my style, so I replaced that word with authentic. According to Merriam-Webster authentic means “true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character” and that’s really what style adjectives are all about.

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When I stand in front of the mirror, especially if I’m wearing an outfit that I haven’t worn recently or very often, I run through my five style adjectives… classy, confident, comfortable, casual, and authentic. If the outfit ticks all five boxes, I know that it will communicate the right things about me and that I’ll feel good wearing it. I do the same when I’m shopping for clothes. In the fitting room, I ask myself whether or not an item fits all or most of my adjectives. If not, it doesn’t come home with me.

If style adjectives are a new idea for you, consider taking a look at the list below and choosing three to five words that describe what you’d like your outfits to say about you. If the words you want aren’t on the list, feel free to choose different ones, but try to be specific. Words like nice and pretty are too vague.

approachable           coordinated          glamorous                  sexy
artistic                         creative                   graceful                        soft
authentic                   current                    happy                             sophisticated
bohemian                  cute                          lively                                sporty
bold                             dressy                      minimalistic                 strong
casual                         eclectic                   modest                           stylish
chic                             edgy                          outdoorsy                     tailored
classic                       elegant                    polished                         trendy
classy                        feminine                  preppy                            unique
colourful                  fierce                        quirky                              vibrant
confident                  fun                            relaxed                            youthful
cool                           funky                        responsible                     whimsical

I’d love to know which style adjectives you choose. Why not share them in the comment section below?

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