Month: December 2024

Book of the month – December 2024

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The Berry Pickers

Amanda Peters

Screenshot 2024-12-15 at 7.36.47 PMOnce in awhile you read a book that you just can’t put down. For me, The Berry Pickers was one of those. I read it while I was eating breakfast and while I was cooking supper, I read it when I should have been going to bed at night, and I read it whenever I got a chance in between.

In July 1962 a tight-knit Mi’kmaw family from Nova Scotia makes their annual trip to Maine to spend the summer working in the blueberry fields. A few weeks later, four-year-old Ruthie, the family’s youngest child, disappears without a trace. Her six-year-old brother, Joe, the last person to see her, blames himself for her disappearance and carries that guilt for the rest of his life.

Elsewhere in Maine, Norma, an only child, grows up in an affluent home with an overprotective mother and an emotionally distant father. Troubled by recurring dreams in early childhood, Norma grows up sensing that there are secrets that her parents are keeping hidden from her.

Told in the first person in alternating chapters that span five decades, Joe and Norma’s stories, read more like memoirs than fiction. In this stunning debut novel, Amanda Peters has also brought even her supporting characters to life.

The Berry Pickers is a gripping story of broken lives, family secrets, the search for truth, the shadow of trauma, and the persistence of love. The author also handles sensitive topics including grief, the loss of a child, alcoholism, discrimination, and terminal illness with sensitivity and compassion.

The novel, which was the Reader’s Digest Book Club pick for November, was also the winner of the 2023 Barnes & Noble Discover Prize and the 2024 Andrew Carnegie Medal for Excellence in Fiction. I am absolutely delighted to learn that the author is working on a screenplay based on the book and that she also has a second novel in the works. Her first one will stay with me for a long time.

2024 fashion shopping review

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logo-by-samFor the past seven years, I have kept a list of all my fashion purchases including clothing, accessories, and footwear. Initially, I had three goals in mind. I was interested in finding out more about my spending habits, I wanted to be more intentional about wardrobe development, and I wanted to work on becoming a more ethical shopper. At the end of each year I’ve published a fashion shopping review analyzing my purchases and setting some goals for the next year. What I’ve found is that over those years, my shopping habits have changed significantly.

In 2018, I bought 35 items. 30 of them were purchased new and the other 5 were thrifted. I spent approximately $1135 CAD. This year, I bought only 14 items. 9 of them were new and again, 5 were thrifted. I spent $420.58.

Why such a dramatic change? In the past, I tended to buy on impulse. I saw something I liked and I bought it. Now, most of my purchases are planned. Also, for several years, I regularly shopped with friends. I often gave in to their opinions about what looked good on me or what I ought to buy instead of trusting my own instincts. Although most of the clothes that I bought were good quality and I still have some wonderful pieces that I wear regularly, I also ended up with a number of purchases that I regretted making and seldom wore. Discovering more about my personal style and deciding on 5 style adjectives to describe it made a big difference to my shopping habits.

I also find that I don’t actually enjoy shopping as much as I used to. I’ve spent so little time in stores over the past few years that unless I’m looking for something specific that I’ve already looked at online, I tend to find them quite overwhelming. Time is also an issue. Whenever we’re in the city, we have so many things to accomplish that I don’t have time to simply browse, try things on, and enjoy the experience. Perhaps one goal for the coming year should be to set aside some time to do exactly that.

So, after all that self-examination, let’s take a look at what I bought this year.

  • 1 pair of lightweight, wide legged pants
  • 6 tops
  • 2 sweaters
  • 1 denim jacket
  • 1 pair of knit gloves
  • 1 ball cap
  • 1 pair of hiking shoes
  • 1 pair of slippers

I didn’t buy any accessories this year. In fact, I’ve decided that I have way too many and one of my goals for the coming year is to sort through them and narrow down my collection to those that I actually wear or am likely to wear again. I also didn’t buy any socks, underwear, or sleepwear. That will likely change in the coming year as those things do wear out.

By far the most expensive item that I bought this year was my Merrell Moab 3 hiking shoes, but they are worth every cent that I spent. As much as I enjoy thrift store shopping, good quality footwear is something that I’m willing to spend a significant amount of money on. I consider it an investment in healthy feet and I’m excited about all the places that those shoes might take me.

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Here are a few of my other favourite fashion purchases from the past year. All of them have appeared on the blog before.

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A simple cropped linen top.

Both these sweaters have been getting lots of wear this winter. The one on the left was thrifted, the other one bought new.

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My denim military jacket.

Not all of my purchases were as successful as these ones. One shirt was only worn a couple of times before I decided that it didn’t suit me. I donated it back to the thrift store where I bought it and hope that it has found a place in someone else’s wardrobe who will appreciate it more than I did. The pants were completely appropriate at the resort where I bought them last January, but they don’t fit my at-home wardrobe very well and were only worn once or twice during the summer. I guess another goal for 2025 should be to not make any more fashion shopping blunders!

My other fashion shopping goals for the coming year are really a continuation of the things I’ve learned to do over the past few years. They include avoiding fast fashion and buying quality pieces that will last, attempting to shop for ethically sourced garments (which is much easier said than done), and continuing to track my purchases so that I can evaluate again a year from now.

Inspiration from J.Jill

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Although they do ship to Canada, I’ve never made a purchase from American womenswear retailer, J.Jill. When I saw this ad, however, my mind immediately went to items in my own closet.

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When that happens, whether I see something in print, online, or on another woman, I don’t try to replicate the look exactly. Instead, I simply take inspiration from what I see. In this case, though I can’t imagine why, it had never occurred to me to style the denim military jacket that I bought in September with the aqua top that has been a favourite in my wardrobe for the past three years. Once I saw the J.Jill ad, however, the combination seemed like a no-brainer. 

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The first scarf that I tried worked very well with the colours in this outfit, but it was too bulky. I didn’t care for that look, so I went back to my scarf collection to see what else might work. I received this one as a thank you gift for taking part in a very special event while I was teaching in China more than ten years ago. I tied it loosely to fit the V neck of the top and cover its short zipper. When the tails hung too long, I decided to knot them. A pair of hand painted earrings, a gift from dear friends who live in Mexico, completed the look. 

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Confidence – your best accessory

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LogoThis week, I heard someone say that confidence is the ultimate fashion accessory and that resonated with me because confident is one of my 5 style adjectives. I want my outfits to say that I am classy, casual, comfortable, confident, and authentic.

I’ve written about this topic before, but I think it bears repeating. If you’re like me, you’ve heard that little voice inside your head that says, “You’re no good at this. You don’t know what you’re doing.” or “You look ridiculous! People are going to laugh at you.”

An article in an older issue of Psychology Today, defined confidence as “a belief in oneself, the conviction that one has the ability to meet life’s challenges and to succeed – and the willingness to act accordingly.” It went on to say that projecting confidence helps us gain credibility, make strong first impressions, deal with pressure, and tackle personal and professional challenges. It also helps put other people at ease. So, what does all this have to do with fashion?

Enclothed cognition is a term that relates to the effect that clothing has on the way a person thinks, feels, and functions. Studies actually show that what we wear directly affects our behaviour, attitudes, personality, mood, confidence, and even the way we interact with other people. How we look on the outside has a powerful impact on how we feel on the inside.

Style confidence involves embracing your uniqueness and finding a personal style that makes you feel like your best self. Wear an outfit because it makes you feel good, not because someone else tells you that it’s right for you.

When it comes to confidence, I’ve also found that there’s truth in the old adage “fake it until you make it”. If you dress in a way that makes you appear strong and confident, stand tall, look people in the eye and focus on them instead of yourself, you might be quivering on the inside, but no one will know. It might require stepping out of your comfort zone, but you might also experience a rush of empowerment because you’ll be wearing your best accessory!

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How to care for sweaters

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logo-by-samI hate being cold, so it seems that my style uniform this winter has become a pair of jeans or corduroy pants and a pullover sweater, or a jumper as it’s known in some parts of the world. A style uniform is simply a combination of clothing that you know you can always rely on and feel comfortable wearing.

Since I’m wearing them so much of the time, sweater care has been on my mind and today I’m going to share a few tips for keeping your sweaters going strong.

Washing 

Begin by reading the care label. Most will advise hand washing in cold or lukewarm water as hot water may cause the fibres to shrink or the sweater to become misshapen. I’m very thankful that my washer has a gentle hand wash cycle, but if you do wash by hand, avoid wringing or twisting as this is also hard on the fibres and might stretch the sweater out of shape. When washing by machine, turn the sweater inside out to help reduce pilling and place it in a mesh laundry bag so that it doesn’t catch on anything. If your sweater is wool, use a mild, wool-specific detergent. Personally, I wouldn’t buy a sweater that needs to be dry cleaned.

Drying 

If washed by hand, begin by laying the sweater out on a dry towel and rolling it to squeeze out excess water. This step isn’t usually necessary if the sweater is machine washed. To dry, lay the sweater flat on a drying rack or another towel and gently reshape if needed.

Removing pills

Pills are the tiny balls of fluff that often form on the surface of knitted fabrics regardless of how carefully you wash them. DO NOT try to pull these off. Simply run an inexpensive fabric shaver over the affected areas as needed. This is the one I use.

Storage

There are two options for storing your sweaters; folding and hanging. Folded sweaters can be piled neatly in drawers on on shelves. If you simply hang a sweater on a hanger the way you would a shirt, gravity will stretch the sweater and leave those nasty little hanger bumps at the shoulders. Instead, I’m going to show you two options for hanging your sweaters that will avoid these problems.

Method #1

Step 1:  Lay sweater flat and fold in half lining up the sleeves.

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Step 2:  Position hanger as shown so that the hook lies between the arm and body of the sweater.

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Step 3:  Wrap the sleeves over one shoulder of the hanger.

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Step 4:  Wrap the body of the sweater over the other side of the hanger.

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Method #2

Step 1:  Same as above.

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Step 2:  Fold sleeves across the body of the sweater.

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Step 3:  Slide folded sweater over the crossbar of hanger with sleeves inside.

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Personally, I prefer the second method. It’s simple, neat and tidy, and there’s no chance of the sweater slipping off the hanger.

Following these tips should keep your sweaters looking good season after season.

Book of the month – November 2024

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The Sun Does Shine

Anthony Ray Hinton with Lara Love Hardin

81FDl6InT2L._SY522_Anthony Ray Hinton spent almost 30 years on death row in Alabama. In 1985, he was arrested and charged with two counts of capital murder, but his only crime was being poor and black.

“He was a poor man in a criminal justice system that treats you better if you are rich and guilty than if you are poor and innocent.”  Bryan Stevenson

In a courtroom with an all-white judge and jury in a state where racial prejudice was rampant, represented by an incompetent court-appointed lawyer, and with the star witnesses being a bumbling ballistics “expert” and an acquaintance who lied, Hinton didn’t have a chance.

He spent his first three years in Holman State Prison in agonizing silence full of despair and anger toward all those who would send an innocent man to his death, but finally beginning to come to terms with his fate, he resolved not only to survive, but to find a way to live on death row. Sometimes that meant escaping into his imagination, but it also meant reaching out and becoming an inspiration to his fellow inmates, 54 of whom were executed mere feet from his cell.

This could have been a very depressing read, but instead it’s a story of a man who never lost his humanity, his sense of humour, or his faith in spite of all that was taken from him. It’s not an easy read. The injustice that Hinton endured at the hands of a legal system that knew he was innocent is absolutely horrifying, but it’s a story of a man who chose to forgive. It’s also a story of love and the power of friendship. Hinton’s mother, who died before he was released, never gave up hope that her “baby” would come home and his childhood friend, Lester, closer than a brother, visited him every single week for the entire time that he was incarcerated.

With the help of Bryan Stevenson, civil rights attorney and bestselling author of Just Mercy, and the Equal Justice Initiative, Hinton finally won his freedom in 2015. He was released into a world that had completely changed in the 30 years since his arrest; a bewildering world of computers, cell phones, and a woman’s voice in the car telling Lester when and where to turn on their way to visit Hinton’s mother’s grave! Now living in her house, which required significant work after sitting empty for several years, he dedicates his time to sharing his experience and speaking out against injustice and the death penalty which he calls a “form of lynching”.

He has never received an apology or any compensation from the State of Alabama and the real killer has never been apprehended.

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