Wearing the unexpected shoe

Logo by SamSince well-known stylist and wardrobe consultant, Allison Bornstein, posted this video on TikTok earlier this year, the idea of “choosing the wrong shoe”, as she calls it, has gained popularity in fashion circles. The idea isn’t actually new; Allison just gave it a name. Personally, I would call it “wearing the unexpected shoe”.

Do you remember when no one would have considered wearing sneakers with a dress? Then, women started doing the unexpected and in time, it became accepted. But what about combat boots or chunky loafers with a dress or kitten heels with sweat pants? As Bornstein points out in the video, choosing the wrong or unexpected shoe can be an intentional choice that personalizes a look and makes it more interesting. The Germans even have a word for it. Stilbruch (literal translation: style break) is an intentional breach of style or a combination of clashing styles.

Wearing the unexpected shoe isn’t about deliberately looking ugly or weird. It’s about adding an element of surprise instead of wearing what everyone else would wear and it’s an opportunity to use what you already have in your wardrobe in a new and different way.

To illustrate, I pulled together a simple outfit from my closet; one that I’ve never worn before. It’s not the most flattering because this much black close to my face doesn’t work well with my complexion, but it’s the shoes that I want you to focus on today. Hopefully you can’t see the goosebumps on my legs. It was 0ºC (32ºF) when we took these pictures! It’s easier to get good photos outdoors, so hubby bundled up and I tried not to shiver! 

Let’s begin with an expected shoe… a classic black pump with a kitten heel. I’ve had these shoes for many years, but haven’t worn them for a long time. Now that kitten heels are back in style, I think that’s about to change. 

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One of the next shoes is a bit more unexpected than the other. 

Yes, I do have the same shoes in two different colours! It was a buy one, get one half price sale many years ago. Though it was the red pair that caught my eye at the time, I’ve actually worn the black ones more often. Now that wearing the wrong or unexpected shoe is on-trend, perhaps I should reach for the red ones more often. They add an interesting pop of colour to an otherwise neutral outfit. 

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This time, we’re back to black, but a bootie instead of shoes. Personally, I’m not as fond of this look, but I think it would work better with a more stylish looking bootie. Perhaps something like this. 

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The final look is definitely an unexpected one, but I like it! Of course, whether I chose this look would depend on where I was going. If I was wearing this outfit to a funeral, for example, I would choose one of the first two shoes shown above. This pair definitely takes the outfit’s formal look down a notch or two. 

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What do you think? Do you ever wear an unexpected or “wrong” shoe? Which of these looks do you prefer? 

 

An on-trend inVESTment

I’ve always loved the tailored look of a menswear inspired vest (or waistcoat), so I was delighted to see them back on-trend for fall/winter 2023. When I found this one in our small town thrift store for just $2.50, I was thrilled! 

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In addition to being a versatile layering piece, it ticked another box for me. I usually wear longer tops, but I’ve been wanting to try the cropped length that’s so popular this season. 

I knew immediately that I wanted to style the vest with the same cabi blouse that you saw in this post two weeks ago, my dark brown button fly corduroy pants also from cabi, and my tall brown boots. I’m sure it will look equally good with jeans and I look forward to trying it with several other items from my closet.

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I love the boy meets girl, masculine/feminine contrast between the tweed look front and the lace on the back. 

Another plus is that the vest will take up almost no space in a suitcase should I decide to take it traveling.

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In addition to the vest, the blouse, boots, and necklace shown today were all thrifted. 

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NET Cancer Day 2023 and an update

For those of us who have neuroendocrine cancer, every day is NET Cancer Day, but November 10 is the one day each year that is set aside to increase awareness of our disease and to promote improved diagnostics, treatments, care, and research. Unlike most cancers, neuroendocrine cancer (NETS) is often overlooked or misdiagnosed. Some patients, myself included, endure symptoms for 5 to 10 years before receiving an accurate diagnosis. All that time, the unseen disease is quietly growing and spreading which is why at least 50% of us, again myself included, have stage 4 cancer by the time we are diagnosed. At that point, it’s treatable, but not curable.

Why is this sneaky disease so easily missed? Why does it take so long to get a correct diagnosis? NETS starts in the cells of the neuroendocrine system which are found throughout the body. Neuroendocrine tumours can hide in many locations, but most commonly originate in the lungs, pancreas, gastrointestinal tract (specifically the large intestine, small intestine, or appendix), the adrenal glands or in rare cases, the brain, breast, or prostate. Without early detection, it spreads to other locations throughout the body including the lymph nodes, liver, peritoneal cavity, and bones.

Not only can the cancer be found in so many different parts of the body, but the symptoms vary and are often non-specific. They might include abdominal pain, diarrhea, nausea and vomiting, heightened anxiety, fatigue, weight loss, skin flushing, chest pain, coughing, wheezing, shortness of breath, and/or back pain. All of these are also symptoms of more common conditions, so it’s completely understandable that doctors don’t immediately consider a little-known cancer like NETS. Many have never encountered a case and know little or nothing about it. As a result, neuroendocrine cancer is often mistaken for other conditions including gastritis, IBS, generalized anxiety disorder, or even menopause. That’s why we need an annual NET Cancer Day and why we need to advocate for increased awareness amongst doctors and patients every day of the year.  

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Last year, on NET Cancer Day, I was happy to be able to report that my disease was stable. Unfortunately, this year, that’s no longer the case. Over the past year, my tumours (or at least one of them), which had essentially been dormant for several years, have been waking up and producing excess hormones again. One of the lesions on my liver has also started to grow again. Thankfully, however, NETS is usually a slow-growing cancer and we still have a number of treatment options available. The neuroendocrine cancer team at the Cross Cancer Institute meets on Tuesdays (I absolutely love the fact that they take a team approach), so they’ll be discussing my case next week and deciding where we go from here.

In the meantime, other than an ongoing headache that is probably stress-related, I have no symptoms and I’m able to live a fairly normal life. Considering that fact that I’ve had stage 4 cancer for over ten years, I feel pretty blessed. I consider every day a gift and I continue to trust that I’m not dying of NETs, but living with it! 

There will be no Fashion Friday post today, but stay tuned for a new one next week. 

Uniqlo comes to Southgate

Logo by SamI fell in love with Uniqlo on our first visit to Japan in 2005. The popular Japanese fashion retailer is known for innovative yet functional apparel as well as high-quality, reasonably priced, easy-to-wear basics for men, women, and children. When we lived in Japan in 2008-2009, it was a short bicycle ride from our apartment to the closest Uniqlo store and later, in 2013, when we spent a semester in Dalian, China we were delighted to find Uniqlo a short bus ride from home!

From one store in Hiroshima in 1984, the chain has spread across Asia and around the world. The first store in Canada opened in Toronto’s Eaton Centre in September 2016, but that’s still a very long way from my home in Alberta! In October of the following year, a Uniqlo store opened in Vancouver just a few kilometres from where my father was living at the time. Every visit to that city included a stop at Uniqlo! Then, in September 2019, Uniqlo finally came to Alberta! A week ago today, Edmonton’s second Uniqlo store opened in Southgate Mall and we were there!

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The chain has been very strategic in choosing new locations and if the number of people crowding the aisles last Friday morning was any indication, they’ve made another good choice.

Like the more than 2400 stores worldwide, Uniqlo’s newest store will carry business attire, leisurewear, intimate apparel, and some accessories. With winter’s sudden arrival in our part of the world, customers might be particularly interested in the brand’s HEATTECH line made of innovative fabric that absorbs body heat and stores it in air pockets deep within the fibres to keep the wearer warm. For additional winter comfort, the brand also offers cashmere sweaters, extra fine merino garments, fleece jackets, and a variety of ultra light down outerwear all suitable for our cold climate.

My favourite Uniqlo purchase has been the Ultra Light Down Vest which I’ve had for several years. The 2023 version of this Uniqlo staple is slightly shorter and boxier than the one that I have, but otherwise the same.

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Last week, I left the store with just one new item, the HEATTECH Lined Padded Scarf a cozy neck warmer that folds into it’s own little pocket for easy carrying. For someone who feels the cold as I do, I know that it’s going to be another favourite!

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PLEASE NOTE: This is not a sponsored post. I am not a brand ambassador for Uniqlo (although I probably wouldn’t say no if they asked!) I simply like the brand and want to share it with you. 

Book of the month – October 2023

Iris & Ruby

Rosie Thomas

9780007173549-l19-year-old, Ruby, driven by her difficult relationship with her mother, runs away from her home in England and seeks refuge with the grandmother she hasn’t seen for many years. Her unexpected arrival on Dr. Iris Black’s doorstep in Cairo brings life and disorder into the elderly woman’s house.

After a lifetime of independent living, Iris recognizes in herself the early signs of dementia. Lovingly cared for by her servant, Mamdooh, and her cook, Aunty, she has become increasingly reclusive, but the arrival of her granddaughter changes that. An unlikely bond forms between the two as Ruby attempts to help her grandmother record her fading memories.

Iris & Ruby is a richly textured story of love, loss, and the power of family relationships.

Through Ruby’s experiences and Iris’ memories, the novel moves seamlessly between present day Cairo and the same city during World War II. Thomas’ writing is wonderfully descriptive drawing us into the glittering parties and the devastating wartime losses of the 1940s; the sights, sounds, and smells of the crowded marketplace of today; and the timeless and relentless desert that surrounds them both.

I was drawn to this novel by the fact that I would love to visit Egypt someday. While preparing to write this post, I discovered that Literary Tours in Egypt actually offers a Rosie Thomas’ Iris and Ruby 2-day tour of Cairo! What a cool idea!